LoVe and Hate

I started my career in 90’s two months after graduation. I applied jobs at only two organization and landed on my first job at one of them. Working there was not easy and there were many times that I would throw in the towel if it’s not for my mother who was my strength, my pillar and a person who I can vent all my frustration about the job that I so call ‘loath’ so much. But come to think of it, it is more of a LoVe and hate relationship with my job. LoVe for the challenges that it posed, and hated it for the feeling it provides. (Hey, Love and Hate is the feeling that cannot exist on its own, just like a coin that cannot stand without one another). Anyhow this much hated job lasted for eight years!! (Oh! do not give me that look..).

I was ever committed to my job that some of my colleagues says that I was married to my work🤓. During those time, nothing matter more that getting the work done. Came in early, going back late, missing lunch, coming to the office over the weekend, sleeping at the office…. Well, been there done that. And all is done in the name of LoVe. (chanting: I LoVe my job, I LoVe my job).

I have to be there for everything, and delegation some the task to the subordinate was almost non-existence. Trusting others to do as good job as you did was a myth. At times, I would think that the organization would collapse without me; who is going to approve the daily funds coming in and out? Who could liaise with the regulators if any issues cropped up whilst I was away, and who would prepare the updates for the boss, if the management needs urgent information? Some of this and other concerns almost paralysed me with worries and I could never (I meant ever) complete my annual leave entitlement within the given year - eyes rolling again (and the organization gives only 22 days of annual leaves per year and MUST be completed within the same year). Every year I would have to forfeit some of my annual leaves, and if not for my boss who would ‘kind’ enough’ to seek approval to carry it forward so that I could ‘enjoy’ it the first quarter of next year. 

See the ironic of it? When I left my first job aka my first LoVe ❤️, I learnt more about the career that I was carving for myself. If I am not in the office, the task can wait, if I were on leave, there would be someone who could take over my job and if I were to leave, someone else could replace me.... in other word, no one is indispensable!!! And the organization will always be there strong as ever!

You ask me so what is my point? My point are:-

1. If you're working, remember your priorities.
2. It's ok to work late, but not on daily basis.
3. Job is only a job, if you leave, there would be someone else doing your job!
4. The organization will NOT collapse without you!😏
5. If you're sick whilst working, the only thing u get is a bouquet of flowers or basket of fruits and sometimes a visit from your boss and colleague. One time!

So ladies and gentlemen, if you are working, know when to leave for home, utilize your annual leave and sweep your family away. Use your hard earned money to take them away to your dreamland. Do not feel proud if your annual leaves are forfeited and do not make your hard earned money just to pay your monthly bills. 

There is more to life than just paying bills!

So, keep your priorities straight and enjoy life.😊😉

 Lots of LoVe ❤️❤️❤️❤️